As a child I always dreaded Valentine’s Day because it meant that I’d be made fun of just as much as the other days but little boys’ & girls’ mothers would make them give valentines to everyone in the class. They’d ignore me completely that day. At one time in 3rd grade I had a crush on a boy and gave him this champagne shaped bottle with candies all inside of it. He liked it, it seemed, but my mom got a call from the teacher complaining since it was in a champagne looking bottle so the teacher was concerned. After that I stopped handing out valentines to everyone. The girls were mean to me and never gave me valentines, though one girl gave me a Sailor Moon valentine in 8th grade because she thought of me when she saw it, and that touched me.
Although I did have “long-term” in-school boyfriends in 5th grade & in 7th-8th grade, I don’t remember getting any valentines from either of them . I’m pretty certain I gave them cards and probably candy.
When Rob and I first became a couple, I had either laryngitis or bronchitis on our first Valentine’s Day. He came to visit me when I was sick in my bed surrounded by used tissues (which I didn’t have a bed, just sheets on my floor. . long story). He gave me a dozen roses and a card. It was sweet. It made me cry. For years afterwards though, I only recall one other Valentine’s Day in which he ever got me something (a bunch of Pro-Flowers back a few years ago). Although we have been a couple over 12 years now, I have learned to accept that Rob is terrible at giving me cards or presents (he’d admit it). I rarely get them on any birthday or holiday. It used to hurt me a bit, but I’ve adjusted & accepted it, and decide to not build up hope that I’ll get anything because then I’ll be mopey all day (I am low-maintenance & a cheap date but I like feeling like a queen for special days).
This morning I gave Rob a card and he said, “I was hoping you wouldn’t do this because I didn’t get you one.” I even warned him a month ago to prepare, but I knew he wouldn’t. I told him that I figured he would not have given me anything, so I bought something for myself “from him” (a shirt from Sevenly for this week’s cause being Freedom Firm, to help rescue girls from sexual exploitation and slavery). I did get Rob a couple presents (inexpensive) that haven’t arrived yet. He knows about one of them (A vinyl record of The Selecter’s Too Much Pressure).
The truth is that Rob loves me & I haven’t any doubts about it. Spending money on me won’t prove his love to me, especially on a day that most wives expect their husbands to buy them something. We won’t be going out to eat tonight, and that is okay. I won’t be lavished with chocolates or teddy bears or things like that, and that’s okay (I’d eventually throw out the teddy bear as it is probably. . I’m not good at sentimental possessions, just memories & photos). We have been bound together through Christ Jesus and adore one another. That’s most important, I think.
This Valentine’s Day, buy gifts that will change lives!
I adored World Vision’s little cut-out Valentines here. Aw. Please consider sponsoring a child with the one you love! You’ll be providing a child, their family, and their community in a third world country with clean water, medical needs, educational needs, agriculture needs, etc & will be able to build a bond with them every step of the way of your sponsorship with them! If you have any questions about World Vision and sponsorship, please ask me (I’m a volunteer WV Child ambassador).
Showing love to those who have nothing or who have had their entire lives stripped away from them from human trafficking issues is a great way to celebrate today. If you haven’t a Valentine, show love to someone else anyway! I made this fundraising page a year ago to help raise $1000 for Love146 who restores young girls who have been rescued out of brothels who were exploited and prostituted. They help bring medical attention, therapy, a way to interact with others who understand them, and get the opportunity to be educated and gain skills so they can thrive & not enter back into oppression!
Give to orphans through Lifesong! So many children feel unloved and there are great Gifts of Purpose you can choose in order to help them!