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What Our Marriage Looks Like Today

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The rooster alarm clock on Rob’s phone goes off early each morning.  I make Rob his lunch while he is getting ready (and depending on what the plan is that day we might all be getting ready). Sometimes we’ll flirt in the mornings pretty majorly.  We dance, kiss, and hug in front of our boys constantly. .they think it is cute, but maybe one day they’ll complain about us being too affectionate in front of them, but we hope they’ll always like it, as it will show them a way to value their future brides. Rob never leaves the house without kissing & hugging the boys first and then giving me a few kisses and holding me before walking out the door to go to work. The boys watch him leave from the window as they blow kisses to him (I’m usually preparing the boys’ breakfast at this point). Some mornings we drop Rob off at work while listening to music and talking. We talk here and there throughout the day online.  We never hang up the phone ever without saying we love one another (Rob mentioned a couple years ago how he doesn’t understand why couples don’t always do that. . which I had never noticed before). We never use our names when calling out to one another, just using “pet names”.

 Enjoy life with the wife whom you love, all the days of your vain life that he has given you under the sun, because that is your portion in life and in your toil at which you toil under the sun.” -Ecclesiastes 9:9

I clean up after Rob’s messes.  He always throws his clothes on the floor daily regardless of my plea for him not to.  I know it sounds really old-school, but I really do make sure Rob has a hot meal to have as he walks in from work (and he brings in the mail for me). He works hard for us and I appreciate it so much. We pray before our meals, alternating who’s “turn” it is (though the boys always pray at meal-times as well).   We catch up on our day as a family (the boys usually talk on and on to him because they miss him so dearly, or they keep trying to interrupt us as we talk to each other).  Rob will play with the boys and read them stories (since I tend to read to them constantly during the day).
After the boys are in bed, we will maybe watch a movie or classic & new Doctor Who together, or I’ll play World of Warcraft while watching The Twilight Zone and he’ll be re-configuring his computer or we’ll read cuddled next to each other on the couch or in bed.

Before bed we tend to talk for a long time; usually discussing what we have learned in the Bible during our own quiet times with the Lord. He goes into “Rob Rant” mode and I love it (he’ll basically preach a sermon).  It brings us together. It keeps us together. We very rarely argue/fight. Then we unite as one. . .and it is kinda strange but we feel as if we are in a Honeymoon stage even though we’ve been married nearly 9 years now. We get lost in one another’s eyes and he knows how to make me blush. We’ll  pray together in bed. The nights tend to always end when Rob lays on my body as I read a book while rubbing his back or caressing his head, which puts him to sleep.  We say “I love you” and give one another a kiss before we sleep.

“However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” – Ephesians 5:33

That is a typical day, but it isn’t always the same every day.
We are heavily involved in our church.  Rob and I are both on the worship team together (he plays bass, I sing harmonies).  We have youth group together.  We do photography together.  We hang out with people from our church throughout the week (in group settings or individually with the same gender).  Rob has been working on rebuilding the inside of our church building these days with a bunch of other attendees, just as we believe God has been rebuilding our personal “inner church”.  We are feeling a sense of community, feeling a sense of growth in each other individually, and a growth in our relationship.

We are planning and preparing on becoming missionaries overseas as a family (down the road, about 3 years away).  Compared to what our lives were like in the past with our relationship’s drama, our current relationship is easier on our hearts and is a complete blessing.  We love each other with extreme depth, but Christ is our foundation and holds us firm.  Jesus is our King/President and our guide. We know there will be hard times, but we trust God to get us through it all.  We encourage each other towards His will.

“You shall eat the fruit of the labor of your hands; you shall be blessed, and it shall be well with you. Your wife will be like a fruitful vine within your house; your children will be like olive shoots around your table.  Behold, thus shall the man be blessed who fears the Lord.” -Psalm 128:2-4

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8 thoughts on “What Our Marriage Looks Like Today

  1. Awww!! This is the Rob & Victoria that I know! 🙂 Well from what I know through your blog. I am insanely jealous of your mornings. I get up at 6am, (over two hours before Kyle) so he is passed out & sleeping in the bed with Louie when I leave for work. 😦 I tend to stay up later at night so I can see him for a bit, and so basically I never sleep and will age horribly, lol.

    I love that you guys are affectionate in front of your sons, my parents were very rarely. I still feel weird kissing & hugging Kyle in front of them.

    1. You will not age horribly! You look young for your age as it is!!! haha. Kyle COULD get up with you, but of course I know how valuable sleep is. hehe. If it helps at all, on the weekends when we WANT to sleep in, our boys wake us up about an hour or two before we are ready. They are so noisy with their toys and voices sometimes.

  2. oh man, I”m glad to hear you’re so appreciative of your wonderful time you get to spend together! Jonny and I are always frantically getting ready together in the mornings and on evenings I don’t have class I come home and study over dinner alone and J comes home later to study more, rarely do we get a night together like yours sounds. so yours sound really lovely!

      1. yes i’m sure we will too… a year from now (but fortunately only 6 months for J) seems so far away. but it’s not like i didnt know it would happen working full time and doing grad school at the same time. works out better w/ us both going through it at the same time at least though.

  3. You two are the cutest! I love how affectionate you are with one another, especially in front of your kids. You’re showing them a wonderful union and something that they can look forward to when they’re adults. I wish I had such strong loving parents when I was growing up. What I learned from them was what not to do haha!

    1. I didn’t have a strong pair of loving parents to admire at all. I still don’t think they have a very good marriage despite being married nearly 42 years, but they have always kissed in my presence or have given little love taps on their bums in front of me, and I have always been happy about it. . .but that is the only “good part” I’ve really seen in their relationship, so that is kinda sad for me. I am sorry to hear that your parents weren’t very loving around you. That is sad, but very good that you strive to not be like them.

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