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“What Happened to Your Outfit Posts?”

I used to post an outfit post either every week to every month depending on various factors: We used to have more money so I could afford to buy more clothes (Rob never complained about me doing so since he likes how I dress) or companies would send me free clothes at times or people would give me vintage clothes that belonged to family members who either died or had no use for them any longer (mainly vintage or handmade items).

I had hoped to mix up some of my older clothing a bit for newer posts and I did post maybe two outfit posts early on in the year.  Now that the end of the year is nearing, I realized I failed in this goal, but at the same time, I am glad about this.

I used to make it a priority to buy clothes and it was for the purpose of showing how modesty can be beautiful in a culture filled with sexualized fashions.  I did it as a sort of way to promote beauty through modesty without being frumpy, and it was swell for the time I did so.  I still hold true to my thoughts on the importance of modesty.  It is odd to me at times how I can get hit on by men or cat-called wearing modest clothing even.  If I were dressed immodestly, how much worse would that be?  I recently went somewhere with my children and parents, but my husband was working.  I was wearing jeans, Converse All-Stars, and a muscle tank that covered me (so no cleavage, a 3″ shoulder coverage, and slightly baggy rather than fitted even and high in the pit area).  A guy who worked at the place we went to asked me for a date in front of all, giving me a meeting place and time on the spot, and thought I was my sons’ sister!  I appeal to men I meet without trying to draw any of their attention.  If I were dressed immodestly, I am sure it would be much worse.  I value my relationship with my husband and leave my immodesty for our times alone.

At the same time my lack of clothing posts is because before I even did these outfit posts, I had all my clothes in a box in our closet that I lived out of and I had absolutely no problem doing so.  I wore the same things pretty much every week or daily.  I had one pair of jeans and a few skirts (most that ended up ripping because I wore them so often) and a few shirts and maybe two dresses.  To me that was enough and even maybe too much.  I like living simply.  I like trusting in God with this scripture: Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing?  Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life?[  And why are you anxious about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin,  yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is alive and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith?  Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’  For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all.  But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” -Matthew 6:25-33inthebluethumbThe truth? I have a hard time seeing people post pictures of the loads of clothes they buy from places and how expensive some of them are.  I see people who photograph their closets filled with clothes and I see they can wear one dress per day for a few months and it boggles my mind because it is excess!  You don’t NEED all those clothes.  Why do people need to have 7 pairs of jeans? I will gladly live in a pair of jeans every day for three weeks before even washing them (yeah, maybe that makes me a bit of a dirt bag, but I don’t wash them so often because I want them to last since I wear them so much and washing them also wears them out faster).  I recently looked through my clothes and noticed that I seriously stain things so badly.  I wear things until they get ripped, torn (and I try to fix them if possible).  I wear a t-shirt that has paint all over it that never washed out, but because it matches a color on the shirt, people don’t notice and still compliment the shirt, even though I’ve owned it for 7 years.  I now have a dresser (hand-me-down that is also falling apart haha) and sometimes it pains me how full it has become even if they are mainly over-worn clothes. . .I want to live out of a box again.  As a follower of Christ, I shouldn’t want clothes at all.  I shouldn’t worry about those things.  I stopped following loads of fashion blogs because it just made me want more and I’ve felt discontented in what I had. I don’t want to want, but be thankful and content with what the LORD has given me and be blessed that I have something to wear each day at all.

This outfit pictured is a dress I bought two years ago on sale at some store at the mall because I wanted to wear something “modern” and not vintage to my high school reunions (I went to two schools in high school and was invited to both reunions even though one I only attended in 9th grade).  I also wore this dress to my friend’s wedding in that same season.  It pretty much is my “wear-to-events” dress.  These photos are from early June (to explain the tan).  Sorry for the delayed outfit post. I never posted an official outfit post until now for this dress.

I may or may not post outfits in the future….depends on if more and more clothes keep ripping where I can’t fix them any more.  I’ll probably end up thrifting whatever I do get for extra cheap though. I’m cool with wearing what I have for another year or two if they last that long though.  Another reason why I don’t buy so much is because of all the slave-made clothing too…..oh but that is a whole other story in itself!!

If you read this post, don’t feel guilty at all about what I’ve said as this is a personal thought being revealed and doesn’t mean you should do what I do.  This has been a deep conviction of mine for 8 years and although I had fun doing outfit posts over the years, it made me vain and ruined me in various ways.  I feel pretty free lately as God lifts these burdens from me.  God has been re-prioritizing my life and I am thankful to Him in so many ways.
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8 thoughts on ““What Happened to Your Outfit Posts?”

  1. I really like what you’re saying here and agree very much. As I’m sure you know, I get quite frustrated w/ excessive consumerism, and also can’t handle too much of seeing loads of new clothing, especially since most of it is fast fashion that was made at someone else’s expense (something else I know you’re also a huge advocate for). I have a couple sets of “around the house” clothing that I change into almost the minute I get home, not because the clothing I was wearing before was uncomfortable (although hey, it can always get more comfy w/ elastic waistbands and soft old fabrics), but because what I change into is super old things w/ holes in them and such. It makes me happy because it’s made so much of my clothing last for years, some even 10+ years, and I also feel like I”m keeping the old clothing out of the landfill that way. at the same time of course i occasionally crave a new item in my wardrobe, often for a special occasion as you did. since i moved to Austin though I haven’t even got new-to-me thrift clothes, since i’ve just felt like I didn’t need more and a need to simplify that aspect of my life. Oh, but I did pick up a few fair trade gems from Mexico this summer, which make me smile each time I look at them : ). Sorry this ended up being such a long comment!

  2. I read this yesterday on my phone, but the stupid thing would not let me comment. I agree with some of the things you say here, and some of them I respectfully disagree. I will say that I always try to weigh all of the pros and cons of different ways of shopping, and there is never really is an easy decision. I have worked in retail, and I can say that working in the slower seasons really sucks. I know everyone doesn’t have money to spend on new clothes all of the time, but when people have the money to spend, it does help those who work retail and need the hours. I was a college student, and that was hard, but I felt worse for those who had kids. Then again, the products we sold, were bought from other countries where people were paid pennies for the harsh labor, so that isn’t fair either. By buying second-hand, you save money and give second life to clothing, but then again it take business away from other places. What Kyle and I tend to do is buy second-hand, or clearance rack/sale items from big-chain stores. If I am going to spend a little more money, we do it at a small business. I also am really big on making sure the things that I don’t wear anymore get donated, used as rags, or given away (Liam steals a lot of my clothes). This was a really good post!

    1. Yeah I hear you.
      You are not like most fashion bloggers though Sara. You post yourself wearing the same clothes mixed up constantly and you tend to thrift things, and you don’t seem materialistic like a lot of the majority are. This again was mainly just expressing personal convictions and I tend to go to extreme lengths about my convictions.
      Sorry your phone didn’t post your first comment. That is frustrating! I truly appreciate you and continue to love your blog too! 🙂

  3. What a great read! As an adult who knows how hard it is to earn money, i totally get your revulsion for excessive consumerism. I get surprised when I see bloggers who are still in school own so many designer stuff and wonder how they manage to acquire them all. As for me, i’m very happy and contented with my thrift finds. I still have a lot of clothes but proud to say 95% are sourced from second hand shops. I’m probably going to curtail my thrifting once I get a family of my own though. And i feel you with the jeans. I wear my jeans three times too before washing them. Hehe.

  4. I live out of a clothing box, we don’t own a dresser (anymore). All my clothing is thrifted, gifted or handed down. But I still like clothing, I like putting on my favorite shirt, my red doc’s, my I overalls ( from you ). I’ve ALWAYS enjoyed your clothing posts, and I’d love to know where you got that outfit you are wearing for this 🙂

    1. I really can’t remember what the store was where I got it. I went into any female dress store at the mall that had discounts. It was also over two years ago now so I really don’t remember!
      IT IS DOC MARTEN SEASON!!!!!!!!!!!! Hehe. Yey!
      You wear those maternity overalls without being pregnant or just through the pregnancies you’ve had? GLad it has been so useful for all these years!!!

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