I have found that in the digital age, we can easily pick and choose who we want to be around and who we want to be friends with and quickly cut them off without too much of an issue. I have done so myself in the past. Now, I don’t like that. I think it is rude and terrible (so yes, I was a rude and terrible person). I have become the type of person who wants to be friends with all people and regardless of our differences, I am willing to work with them and continue to pursue a relationship with them whether or not they want to. This of course doesn’t work too well if the other person isn’t willing to work things out. I find that those who are older than 40 tend to be understanding and capable of continuing a relationship and being at peace even with differences because their generations were more face-to-face than with those who are more from in the computer age. I am 31, and have lost several relationships simply because my opinion doesn’t match theirs, and that is so wrong. I love getting to know people who are not like me. I think about Jesus and how he had a harder time with those who stated they understood God than those who were the underdog of society that no one wanted to get to know. He took the time to hear them out and show love to them. What a great example.
As a follower of God, and as one who is a peacemaker and justice seeker, I have learned to be more forgiving and gentle, but it is a hard thing to do when I want to go back to my old mentality when things don’t go necessarily in my way. God’s way is for us to get along and not argue or complain and to be at peace with all people. James 3:17 says, “But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.”
I play video games. Many times while playing games with strangers from around the world, I have seen people either who are very kind and patient with others or those who have been downright rude and say things that I doubt would be said if they just met me in person. Because I am female in the gaming world especially, I have had people leave a game when they found out they have a female teammate. I have had people threaten to rape me and say crude and inappropriate things to me. In the process though, I have found dozens of people who are respectful and don’t care that I am a female, as long as I can make for a nice teammate or help have a fun game-play. I often have been the peacemaker in games where I tell people to stop swearing at people or putting them down and to be kind and the entire game can get switched around when someone takes initiative to say, “Hey, that is a person you’re playing with. You are a person too. Don’t you get stressed out if someone were to say that to you? Let’s have fun and remember it is a game. Please be respectful and show proper teamwork.” I will speak with my soft voice which surprises them after I was silent all game. They get surprised when I do that and I think of myself as being an in-game mom when I do it (which I don’t mind. . I am a mom). Sometimes they’ll continue, but often times they become more understanding and apologize. I never thought that my peacemaking through following Christ would follow into video games, but it can.
Even if people are terrible and murderous and malicious or manipulative, showing kindness to them and being peaceful can lead them to a change of heart. Show them Christ’s love and so much can happen. You might see a transformation. Pray for them. I’m making it a habit to pray more for people, even those that I play games with or have a hard time with.
Outfit info: blouse – Modcloth a few years ago | Shoes – Payless a few years ago | Skirt – I don’t remember the store but I got it 12 years ago! | Snowflake necklace – a birthday present from a woman at my church | belt – don’t remember as it is also old.