Every late November my mom had her children make “want lists”.    As the only girl in the family (other than my mom), I always got the most presents. I was spoiled.  I expected things.

When I was 15, my mindset changed. It was the first year that I told my mom to not buy me school clothes and that I was okay with what I had the year previous.  I was content, and don’t know how I got to that point in general.  It was once I became 16 that I went back to my normal materialism.

Here we are 16 years later.

This is the third year that we have not celebrated Christmas (we celebrate Hanukkah tied in with Jesus/Yeshua).  Our last Christmas (4 years ago) we did without a tree and the majority of the usual things we had done years before. Being minimalists also gives us a changed perspective on the holidays.

1. Saving money on electricity.
I don’t have to buy lights or worry about replacing lost ones.  My electric bill remains normal.  “But Victoria, lights are so pretty!” My home looks fine as it is. “But Victoria, what about the joy of your sons looking at the lights on your tree?” They have joy and actually find pleasure in lighting our menorah/hanukkiya for eight nights. They stare into a trance at the candles. I have always preferred light from non-electrical sources in general myself and would definitely love to switch over completely as it is.

2. “I speak for the trees!”
34 billion trees are cut down every year for Christmas in the US alone.  “Why not get a fake tree, Victoria?” Regardless, we don’t like the origins to having a tree in our home in general and I like looking at them outside.  It does great pleasure to see how trees grant homes for creatures or watch how the snow falls and sits on their branches.  Fake trees are strange and miss the whole concept of smell and touch.  We would spend $70 on trees some years.  Why spend money on something that will not last that long, make a huge mess I am going to have to clean up anyway, and then gets picked up on the curb as part of its ritual (it really is strange how we do that – take pictures of our glorious tree only to ditch it)?  It is one thing to use the tree to make something useful like a chair, paper to write on, or a house.  It is another to dispose of it.

3. Ornamental Mentality Issues.
We actually gave our ornaments back to our parents to do what they please with them. I used to love looking back each year at the ornaments that we had as we’d put them on the tree.  I prefer to keep my memories in my head instead of holding on to material objects to remind me of things. The memories are in my mind. If I lose my mind, so be it, but having an object to remind me of something to me is not necessary.  We feel ornaments are glorified trinkets and a form of idolatry, and I know people will say, “WOAH there!” That’s just sincerely how we view them (so we have no trinkets at all).  We don’t have to spend money on something that sits in a box in our attic to be taken out for a short period of time before getting packed away again. We had so many ornaments that never even went on our trees.  All this goes along with the rest of the decorations normally set up each year as well.  I like that the only thing I spend money on for each year now are tiny Hanukkah candles that cost me a dollar or two. That’s it. Sweet. We do still hang up cards that people send to us.

4. NINTENDO 64!!!
Ah, presents. Having to go to stores or worry about costs or discounts.  None of that effects us!  Spending hundreds of dollars on things that make you go into debt is absurd. Buying things that the kids will either love or hate; things that get played with for a short while and eventually forgotten. Seriously, does that kid still play with his Nintendo 64 today? Highly unlikely.  It may be in his attic now collecting dust.  If we train kids to be that excited about a material possession, there is a problem.  We have created little monsters who expect to have things catered to them.  I have seen my own sons go crazy when they don’t get their own way and it is very frustrating to deal with.  When we have told them why we don’t buy them things, they totally get it though.  Now they know that we really only get them either a present to share with one another for Hanukkah (yes, we only get them one present, though this year we gave them each a present and an extra to share).  We will only buy things for them that will be put to good use, or it is pointless to purchase it.

The truth is that the majority of the children in the world are living in menial poverty while children in the US have an overabundance of wasteful items they don’t really need.  We want to instill in our sons that it is more important to help people with nothing than expect something they don’t need.  Children today get bored too quickly with their toys. They’ll play with it a few times but it gets old fast and they want something else.  We want our sons to be able to appreciate what they have and to stick with what they have and put it to use regularly.

We live in an age where it is easy to access things that we want and stuff builds up where you need more room and storage for those things you don’t even need.  We believe in giving our children something that can be a tool to train them and build their minds.  More and more I am noticing my children are drawing more and playing less with toys.  They want to do more creative things.  Even the video games we allow them to play have to do with building their brains (such as Minecraft that they haven’t grown bored of since playing it regularly for two years). We want them outside more. We want them to build relationships with others.

Our last Christmas celebrated, we had no money for presents at all and we felt so badly about it. Someone gave some of their child’s presents to our boys. That was so kind of them but now I wish I was okay with our sons getting nothing and that instead we could just have time together and understand that value is not what you own. value is the time you spend with one another period, usually doing tasks and activities as a unit.

5. Celebrate Jesus Daily
We were sent a box this week that had a message on it that said, “Simplify Christmas! Celebrate Jesus!” I was very confused.  We aren’t celebrating Jesus?  The Shammash/center candle on a Menorah/Hanukkiya IS the “servant light” that lights up the rest.  That light is Jesus. We very much celebrate Him this season without celebrating Christmas.  The box had some crafts inside for the boys (which were cute actually and they are working on them as I type this) and packets of info explaining why we should celebrate St. Nicholas Day.  Didn’t they just say to celebrate Jesus and now we are to celebrate a man who wanted to celebrate Jesus, not himself?  It is irritating and hurtful how much trouble we receive each year for not celebrating like the majority of Christians, as if we are “less Christian” because we choose to not celebrate Christmas.  It is as if it is required of us, and how dare we not want to.  How quickly people forget to see who we (Rob and I) are.  We celebrate Christ every day.  Why should we think of his birth only on a day that isn’t even his birthday that was originally Caesar’s birthday in which the Catholic church wanted to replace with Christ’s birthday? We think about him all the time and how God cared that much to save us that He sent His only son! How neat!

Jesus said to give everything up to follow him, and we are in that process to think more of His kingdom over ours. We spent a couple years studying about Christmas and Hanukkah before we made this decision. It wasn’t as if we woke up one morning and decided to change how we did things all at once. It was the word of God that has slowly been changing how we live, and for us, the holidays is a big part of this.  I think Christmas has been more of a comfort during a cold dead season to people than Jesus has been a comfort to them.  The miracle of Jesus giving everything up for us is more important than anything we could ever want, receive, or have the ability to give. We are told to help the poor, the slave, the oppressed, the prisoner, the refugee, the widow, the orphan, etc.  Is granting material presents to our sons doing that?  No. Giving them the actual word of God and showing them how to live by it is.

My final encouragement to you:
Try to understand why you are celebrating something and what the overall purpose may be.  No one told us to stop celebrating Christmas.  It was the furthest thing from our mind to do.  We might love to discuss things with people, but most of the time people don’t try to understand or ask us questions as to why.  They react with anger instead and try to change us.  It doesn’t work like that.  We believe you should dig in to understand everything and not blindly accept what was told to you about something.  We thought we felt a peace in how we once celebrated holidays, but we had a lot of hard times in regards to them.  Now we feel an even deeper peace.   It is so nice to not have to worry about all those stresses we once had.cabininthewoods

Join the conversation! 6 Comments

  1. Hello Victoria,
    I really enjoyed this post. I think we are really very similar in our views…only I am just now learning new ways and going slowly to try and get my family on board. I was previously an atheist, and this is my second Christmas season as a Christian. I have always been bothered by the materialism, even as an atheist, and we always kept the gifts light. I am someone who desires to put Christ at the center of this season (as well as in our everyday life), and so we were going to do advent this year, but like you, I am bothered by the roots of many of our holiday symbols.

    Long story short, we are celebrating our first Hanukkah this year and loving it! I had little time to prepare, so a kind of just winging it, but it has still been fun and meaningful. We are also doing Christmas, but perhaps next year we will just stick with Hanukkah in our home (there is no way we can get away from celebrating fully due to church, and my moms birthday being on Christmas eve!).

    Can you share some ideas of how you make Jesus the center of Hanukkah? I have been using a little devotional with NT readings, but I would appreciate some help.

    Thank you and God bless you,

    • Hello Desiree!
      Thanks so much for the wonderful comment.

      We go to a church that doesn’t celebrate Hanukkah, but they are very kind to us in regards to it all, though we have a small church with not too many people in it.
      Last night my husband read about the conception of Jesus and then we usually discuss why God sent Him. Pretty much the beginning of Luke or Matthew are more of what we go over.

      Although Maccabees is not in the Bible, it is historical. Jesus celebrates the Feast of Dedication which is Hanukkah in John 10:22. Not much is said otherwise, but basically we see how beautifully Hanukkah ties into Jesus being the miracle of light to us. While the Maccabees received 8 days of light from oil that was not supposed to last more than a night, and while the temple had been defiled and was in the process of being cleaned up, Jesus came to save us so that the temple that is now within us can be cleansed and that his miraculous light fills us now.
      When we were just learning everything, I did read a book called “Messianic Winter Holiday Helper” by Margaret McKee Huey which was very in depth but maybe too much information but there are other books like it.
      and we use this as a little guide for our family here and there (it is very small) called “Dedicate and Celebrate! A Messianic Jewish Guide to Hanukkah” by Barry Rubin & family.

      We tend to just stick to reading from the actual Bible about Jesus in general and how we should want to live as He did on earth. We also celebrate Passover tied into Jesus instead of Easter.

      Anyway, hope all goes well and if you need any help or have more questions, I’ll respond!!!

  2. how to deal with family members/your parents your in laws when it comes to gift giving? that’s the bigger issue that I am having….

    • We have that too. My mom was all about saying, “Well if I get them something you aren’t going to throw it out, right?” I said, “I don’t want them to have anything that they don’t need at all!” She tries to manipulate the situation but basically if she gets a present for them, I’ll be giving it back for her to return or will tell her that she went against my wishes as a parent. She is not the parent of my children, so my say goes beyond hers. Rob has been delaying and trying to figure out how to best tell his parents because it has been frustrating them how they have acted on the whole holiday issue. With my own family I put my foot down. I also told my brothers we weren’t doing gifts at all and they got it. We have already gone loads and loads of years without gift giving to one another, so the kids thing just saves them money and I think they really get that well. Rob’s sister. . .well . . .not sure how that will go, but again that is for him to deal with and I’ll probably be the blame even though he is probably stronger opinionated on the issue than I, but they won’t get that. Alas. Oh well. :: sigh ::

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About Victoria / Justice Pirate

Victoria. Anabaptist, Wife of Rob, Mom of two boys, minimalist, quilt maker, Resources Adviser/Social Media Manager for anti-human trafficking awareness organization Justice Network (justice-network.org).


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